Students of Pakistan face challenges in choosing a profession because their parents don’t allow them to do so. This is the issue of the entire nation only a few students can pursue their desired profession. Many students feel pressure to pick the profession they want to become. They don’t want to meet their parents’ expectations.
Reason Behind Parents Insist of Specific Career
Parents want the best for their children and that desire ruins their children’s dreams. The idea of the best never matches with the children’s choice. Their best revolves around tradition, high paying, personal dreams, and respected careers such as medicine, engineering, and law.
Here are some reasons why parents force their kids to choose their chosen profession:
Parents think that choosing a popular profession is the safest option
They worry about financial stability or job security
Professions that are not affected by economic crisis
They are not well informed about the careers their kids are choosing
Their concerns are valid but don’t align with their children's goals and abilities. So children have to address those concerns respectfully rather than taking a fight or surrender.
Steps to Convince Your Parents
Step 1: Complete Research Your Career Choice
Before convincing your parents get an idea about your chosen career. Gather every detail about it. Complete and proper research can help you tell your parents about it confidently.
How do you complete research?
Checklist for Career Research
Do check what expected opportunities your career holds
Career must match your skills and abilities
Degree and certification are required
Difficulty in finding that particular job
Expected and average salary of that job
Skills that are in you and skills you have to learn
Experience you might need to become an expert in that
By going through this, you will be able to find out whether that career is for you or not.
You can also figure out how you can convince your parents to help you in choosing your desired profession.
Step 2: Initiate a Respectful Discussion
After completing the research, plan a respectful dialogue with your parents. If parents are toxic pick one at a time or pick one who is more understanding. Otherwise, pick both and start talking to both at the same time.
How to talk to your parents?
Ask them to give you enough time to have a discussion when they are free
Admit how they are important to them
Thank them for their guidance and support all the time
Incorporate them into your decision
Make them feel they are important in your decision-making
Step 3: Appreciate Your Parents' Perception
Do listen to them while they are convincing you to do what they want you to become. Be patient during the discussion and avoid becoming aggressive. To understand why they want you to choose their suggested career.
Ask some constructive questions such as:
What are the reasons behind choosing this career?
What advantages do you think I might get from it?
What are specific concerns about your chosen career?
Active listening and showing respect can help you convey your perspective better.
Step 4: Tell Them Your Career Choice Calmly
After actively listening, convey your research logically and calmly. Use the following structure in explaining your views on professional choice:
How to explain your choice?
Tell them your choice doesn’t fit their interest
Explain why you believe in that career
Pinpoint your abilities, interests, and values
Explain how these do not suit your choice
Explain how you fit with your own chosen career
Share your research paper including all the specs (scope, salary, opportunities, growth)
Present a career growth plan in terms of designation and finance
Emphasize how happy you will be by choosing this
Be motivated and stick to your career throughout the time
Step 5: Seek Professional Career Counseling
Never lose hope, despite your best try, conflict may persist. In this case, talk to a career counselor for help.
Benefits of Career Counseling
Help you in finding the best career according to your personality
Provide reliable information about career suggestion
Suggesting you midway in creating understanding between you and your parents
Ensure that you and your parents make decisions together
Avoid Making the Same Mistakes
Ask yourself before talking to your parents
Chosen career is trendy and pays well?
Have you gone through all career paths?
Significant life decisions must be time-consuming to ensure you are making the best choice for yourself.
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